I donate sometimes as often as every week, but more typically 2-3 times every month. I happen to have a high level of platelets, so most of the time I donate three units of platelets (and sometimes also plasma) every time I go in.
After all the times I’ve been donated, I still am fascinated by the process – and I am still learning new things about platelets. Just last month I learned that matching donated platelets with recipients is pretty complex.
Donating in Salam, OR, back in 2022
Platelets aren’t matched simply on blood type. Instead, like bone marrow transplants, platelets are tested to find the closest Human Leukocyte Antigen (HLA) match. It’s rarely 100%, but the closer the match, the better – especially for people with weakened immune systems.
What is HLA? Greatly simplified, the HLA system encodes the surface of your cells with unique proteins – rather like fingerprints for your cells. Your immune system will recognize cells with matching HLA as your own and fight off any that appear foreign.
I spotted this Red Cross Blood Drive sign in Nagoya Japan in 2016
Donated blood products with a poor HLA match really can be a risk to a patient with a weak immune system. I have been told that your healthy donation can actually attack the patient’s system.
So, platelet donations may be sent far, far away if they are a good match. A decent supply of platelets locally does not guarantee a close match.
I receive emails after my donations letting me know where my platelets have been sent. In the past year, here are all the places they ended up:
Destinations of Toby’s 2023 Platelet Donations
University of California- UCLA, Los Angeles, CA UCSF Medical Center at Mission Bay, San Francisco, CA West Los Angeles Medical Center., Los Angeles, CA Egleston Hospital, Atlanta, GA Tanner Medical Center Carrollton, Carrollton, GA Northside Hospital, Atlanta, GA University of Michigan Hospital, Ann Arbor, MI McLaren Macomb, Mount Clemens, MI Harper University Hospital, Detroit, MI MountainView Hospital, Las Vegas, NV Sunrise Hospital & Medical Center, Las Vegas, NV Kaiser Sunnyside Medical Center, Clackamas, OR Asante Rogue Regional Medical Center, Medford, OR OHSU Hospital, Portland, OR Salem Health, Salem, OR Columbia Memorial Hospital, Astoria, OR St. Charles Medical Center, Bend, OR Adventist Medical Center, Portland, OR OHSU Hospital, Portland, OR Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania, Philadelphia, PA Kadlec Regional Medical Center, Richland, WA Seattle Children’s Hospital, Seattle, WA UW Medical Center, Seattle, WA Astria Toppenish Hospital, Toppenish, WA Yakima Valley Memorial Hospital, Yakima, WA
Given platelets can only be used within a week after they are collected, it takes sophisticated logistics to match, transport, and transfuse them in time!
They are needed especially by patients with cancer or leukemia, those undergoing major operations, and those who have been in bad accidents.
There is always an urgent need for platelets. Right now, the Red Cross reports that blood supplies are currently the lowest they have been in 20 years.
My dear friend, Alicia, donating back in 2018
Platelets have higher eligibility requirements. If you are eligible, please consider donating. If you are in the Portland area, I will happily donate with you!
It’s an unfortunate truth that there are unscrupulous people who exploit others out of their money — maybe a few hundred dollars or one’s life savings. Whole organizations employ sophisticated operations to convince you or someone you love to hand over a lot of money.
The scam industry steals $20 billion a year.
I’d like to share some tips and resources for you and the people you care about, especially those 65 and older.
I. Finding Legitimate Charity Organizations
During the holiday season many people donate to charities. Unfortunately, unscrupulous organizations convince many they are doing good when they are in fact wasting or pocketing a major portion of their donations.
There are so many good causes one can donate to and there is no shortage of need. However, there is great variety in how effectively various charities spend their money. To find out how much of your donation actually goes toward the intended cause (versus administrative costs, marketing, etc.), use Charity Navigator.
Their ratings will show you how your gift can be be maximized to serve the causes you care about most.
II. Avoiding Email and Telephone Scammers
Scammers, in my opinion, are some of the most despicable individuals. A single scam call center can swindle up to $60,000 per day, and they target mostly senior citizens — 90% of their money is stolen from people 65 and older by exploiting their empathy and naiveté. Typically, they call only during business hours as those are the times they are most likely to catch retired people.
Scammers pretend to be from an organization you know (Apple, Microsoft, IRS, Medicare, Social Security, etc.).
Scammers say there’s a problem or a prize.
Scammers pressure you to act immediately.
Scammers tell you to pay in a specific way (cryptocurrency, cash, wire transfer, gift cards).
To avoid phone scams:
Block unwanted calls and text messages.
Don’t give out personal or financial information in response to a request you didn’t expect.
Resist the pressure to act immediately.
Know how scammers tell you to pay – be very suspicious of requests you use cryptocurrency, wire transfers, or gift cards.
Stop and talk to someone you trust – I think this is the best advice. Don’t be shy or ashamed to ask for help. If you have already paid a suspected scammer, don’t let shame prevent you from telling someone ASAP if you think you’ve been scammed. If you act quickly enough, you may be able to stop or block a payment to a scammer.
If you are interested in seeing some entertaining videos showing scammers getting caught by experienced computer experts and engineers, here are a couple:
Mark Rober (the porch pirate glitter bomb guy) made two videos. In the first, he catches a scammer trying to steal thousands of dollars:
But in doing so, he pulls back the cover on a multimillion-dollar international scamming scheme. Using a team of experts, he infiltrates and seriously pranks a large scam call center in India:
People’s Call Center 2023 A group of hackers and volunteers led by professional scam baiter Pierogi spent a week fighting back against scam call centers:
III. Detecting and Avoiding AI Voice Scams
Unfortunately, artificial intelligence (AI) technology has advanced to the level where someone’s voice can be reproduced very convincingly.
Here’s how the scam works:
People receive calls from someone who sounds like a friend or a relative urgently in need of money. This technology is called voice cloning, and it sounds amazingly authentic. Like the scammers above, they often pressure you to act immediately and to send the money via wire transfer or gift cards.
The quickest and simplest way to avoid these convincing scams is to call them back to verify.
Here’s a news story about someone who almost got scammed:
I hope this information helps keep you and those you care about safe.
If something could be repaired, I’d rather do that than buy a new one — I wouldn’t have to pay for a new microwave and its installation as well as deal with the removal and disposal of the old one. And old appliances seem to be more durably built than those today, the latter of which seem to be designed to fail after only a handful of years.
Here’s my full story:
1. Things start to go haywire: The touch pad buttons on my microwave started to act up. There is one button that turns on the light and another that turns on the exhaust fan. Sometimes, pressing the light button, the fan would come on (sometimes the light too). I’d have to press the button repeatedly until the desired combination of light and fan was achieved. It was a minor irritation.
But then the number keys started to act up. Pressing one number might work, but the numbers on the display might change to a completely different number. It was at this point I decided something needed to be done.
2. Researching the problem and possible solution The main parts of the oven (the microwave and turntable) were fine. I suspected the touchpad and/or circuitry were starting to go bad. Maybe I could replace them? (I was successful a couple years back fixing a washing machine door, which I wrote about here).
I took a picture of the label with the model (General Electric JVM1630BJ01), serial number, and manufacture date (July, 2004) and searched Google.
I quickly found a site that showed a schematic with pictures of the various parts and their part numbers. Unfortunately, my microwave was too old to find new replacement parts, but I wasn’t ready to give up just yet.
Replacement used control panel and circuit board on eBay
I noted the specific part number for the control panel and searched Google and eBay for it. I found the used part for sale on eBay. But would I be able to do the repair myself?
I next went to YouTube and searched for videos explaining how to replace the circuit board and touch pad for a GE microwave. I quickly found videos showing how to do it, and it looked like a pretty simple task: remove a couple screws to remove a vent cover, then remove another screw or two to loosen the control pad panel, disconnect some wires, then reverse the process with a replacement panel.
The used replacement circuit board/control panel was going to cost about $60. Because it was both the control panel and the circuit board, I would be able to skip a lot of the steps in the video above.
It wasn’t guaranteed to work, but I had decent confidence it would. And it would be a lot cheaper and less time-consuming than buying a new microwave and doing the removal of the old and installation of the new. I decided to take the gamble and give it a try.
3. Taking the plunge I ordered the used part from eBay and waited. It arrived a week later. Holding it up in front of the microwave made it clear I had ordered the correct part.
It was time to do the operation.
I turned off the circuit breaker for the microwave and within minutes had removed the vent cover — which revealed an unsettling accumulation of nearly 20 years’ worth of grease.
One more screw removed, and the control panel was loose.
I recorded detailed notes of all the wire connections, then carefully disconnected the various wires from the old panel and completely removed it. I then held the replacement panel up and connected the wires into it.
The old (left) and the newish (right) control panel/circuit boards
Securing the panel with a screw, I went to the circuit breakers and turned the power back on.
Voila! The panel immediately illuminated. I set the clock and pressed the fan and light buttons repeatedly, and all operated normally. Running the microwave also worked fine.
I took the opportunity to soak and clean the greasy vent panel as well as clean the grease off the exposed inner surface of the microwave before reattaching the vent and securing the screws.
Apart from cleaning the grease, the entire repair took me about 30 minutes.
I can’t guaranty your appliance repairs will go this quickly or smoothly (I have had some repairs take days to complete). But I do encourage you to at least do a little searching on Google and YouTube when something starts to fail before rushing out to buy a completely new appliance.
For my trip to Italy, I really wanted to have data access. This would enable me to use Google Maps, post pictures to Instagram, check email, translate words on the fly, and look up things on the internet.
My existing cell provider, Mint Mobile — which I highly recommend — offers international coverage, but it isn’t cheap. I didn’t expect to make phone calls or send/receive texts — my main communication would be through Signal and WhatsApp. There was a slight chance I might have needed access to my phone for 2-factor authentication.
Mint Mobile, my carrier, offers international roaming, but like most domestic plans, it’s pricey.
I decided to go with an international data plan and install it on a second phone. I chose Eskimo (available for iOS and Android). I have no relationship beyond being a customer and I receive no benefit for promoting their service.
You don’t have to have a second phone. You can install the Eskimo eSIM on your existing phone and switch carriers depending on when you are home or abroad. I just happened to have another phone that was compatible, so I went that way.
Eskimo is not the cheapest plan out there, and it has one major drawback: this is a data-only plan; no phone or texting service is offered.
Why I Chose Eskimo
That being said, there are several advantages that persuaded me this would be the best plan:
Eskimo uses an eSIM (i.e. no physical SIM card required) As long as your mobile phone supports eSIMs, you will be able to get up and running within minutes. You don’t have to wait for a SIM card to be mailed to you, install it, etc. Unsure whether your phone is supported? Check the device compatability list on Eskimo’s website.
No data limit or speed throttling Many providers will limit the amount of data you can use during a period of time. Others may offer “unlimited data,” but throttle your data transfer speed after a certain amount of data has been used. Eskimo has no such limits or throttling.
Data can be used for 2 years I purchased 10 GB of data. After my week in Italy, I had used only 2 GB. So, I left my phone with my traveling companions who are staying another week. I doubt they will exhaust my purchased data, so I will be able to use the data next time I travel abroad.
Over 80 contries served Some data plans may be cheaper, but they may be limited to certain countries or continents. I should be able to use this plan most places I might want to go.
Personal Hotspot Functionality Since I installed this on a second phone, I left my primary phone settings unaltered (other than turning off mobile data and roaming services). I could turn on hotspot functionality so I could use other mobile devices (laptops, tablets, etc.) as well as allow my traveling companions to use my phone as a Wi-Fi hotspot and take advantage of my purchased data.
My traveling companion had a phone with a plan that offered international coverage. But enabling it cost US$10 per day — a typical fee. For a two-week vacation, those charges quickly add up. I purchased 10 GB of data for just US$39 (and it is likely it will last me for a year or more).
I advised them to set their phone in airplane mode. Free Wi-Fi was available at our lodging and on many of the trains we took. But when they needed access where no free Wi-Fi was available, I just turned on my personal hotspot and they were good to go.
When Was I Most Grateful to Have Data Coverage?
Using Google Maps The streets in ancient cities like Rome, Venice, and Florence go every which way. Even when walking just a few blocks one can get confused or lost. Using Google Maps to guide my way helped me identify landmarks, and locate a coffee shop, a gelateria, or restaurant. Furthermore, Google Maps was able to indicate which bus lines to take and even water buses in Venice. Also, it was kind of cool to fire up Waze and see how fast our high-speed train was traveling (up to 150mph!).
Unlocking my AirBnB door One of the AirBnbs we used had an electronic door lock. It could be unlocked by punching in a code or by visiting a website and clicking a button online. The code our host sent us never worked, so I unlocked our door several times every day using my phone.
Purchasing tickets and reserving seats on the train We were encouraged to always reserve seats on the train, which we did using the Eurail mobile app (available for iOS and Android).
We were able to check train schedules, reserve seats, and show proof of our tickets and reservations using just our phones.
Dinner reservations This was a busy time for tourism, so we made reservations using my phone. We were able receive reservation confirmations as well as alter existing reservations using my phone.
Translating I used Deepl to translate unrecognizable words on menus, signs, and more. Restaurants with online menus but none available in English could be automatically translated using my cell phone web browser.
Hailing a taxi We found out how much supply and demand for taxis can fluctuate depending on the day of the week and time of day. Lyft doesn’t appear to serve Italy, and although Uber does, it is much more expensive than taking a taxi or public transportation.
At first, simply hailing taxicabs at busy intersections and roundabouts worked fine. But one evening we were trying to make our dinner reservation, and we were unable to secure a taxi for over a half hour standing on a busy street. We weren’t eager to try to call and navigate a phone conversation to order up a taxi.
Finally, my companion fired up their appTaxi app, which was able to secure a taxi, indicate our destination, and let us know how long our wait would be (about 6 minutes).
If you are traveling to Italy, I highly recommend you install this app (it only works in Italy). Be sure you install and set it up before you need it — it will ask for a lot of information and need to send you confirmation texts before you can use it.
appTaxi is available for iOS and Android
The line waiting for a taxi at the Florence train station was very long!
Conclusion
Having mobile data access while traveling abroad is both convenient and can save you serious time and headaches. Purchasing a data plan that supports eSIMs, like Eskimo, is easy and well worth the cost.
Summary: I wasn’t surprised by the quality of food in Italy — I was happily surprised by the affordable prices!
I’ve just returned last night from a delightful vacation in Italy. The cities I visited were Rome, Florence, Venice, and Reggio Emilia over 8 days.
This will be the first of several articles I expect to post about my trip.
Although I’m still recovering from jetlag, the memory of the gastronomic side of my Italian itinerary is as fresh as the ingredients used in the delicious meals upon which I feasted.
1. Breakfast Breakfasts generally consisted of baked goods and coffee.
I am not a coffee drinker. I usually drink some coffee heavily fortified with sugar, cream, and/or chocolate maybe once every 3-4 months. But I found myself enjoying a cappuccino nearly every morning. So smooth and gentle was the taste that I didn’t need to add any sugar.
Pastries, bottled water, or juice sometimes accompanied the coffee, and I found it all delicious!
Croissant, poppyseed muffin, organic yoghurt, water, juice, and cappuccino at Barcoccia on the Piazza di SpagnaMaritozzo – a Roman pastry filled with whipped cream and sometimes nuts, grapes, and candied orange peelMaritozzo and a cappuccino enjoyed at Snack Bar Roma LazioScendiletto Crema Agli Agrumi – a flat pastry filled with citris cream. Enjoyed at Pasticceria Alinari Cafe across the street from the train station in FlorenceSfogliotella Napoletana Riccia at Pasticceria Alinari Cafe, recommended to us by a Florence taxicab driverBreaking open the crunchy outer shell of the Sfogliotella to reveal the lovely fillingCroissant filled with NutellaTwo cappuccinos on a tiny sidewalk table.Clockwise starting with front center: Sfogliotella, savory pastry with cheese, ham, and a little tomato sauce, and a little pie filled with rice pudding.
Pastries, bottled water, and/or juice accompanied the coffee, and I found it all delicious!
2. Lunch Lunches varied from small sandwiches to pasta and pizza.
Cicchetti – traditional Venetian tiny open-faced sandwiches. Ours had anchovies, olives, cheeses, ham, squash, and more. In the center was a savory pastry with anchovy. We enjoyed these at L’Archivio.L’Archivio in VeniceOur “second” lunch in Venice: Pizza! From left, clockwise: Quattro formaggi (4 cheeses), 2 cheese and ham, mushroom and sausage. Enjoyed at Trattoria-Pizzeria All’Anfora in VeniceLasagna and a Caprese Salad in Florence.Sidewalk sandwiches with pork at Antica Porchetteria Granieri 1916 in FlorenceAdmiring the many food offerings in the Mercato Centrale Firenze (indoor Florence)
3. Dinner Dinners were fantastic: seafood, vegetables, meat, pizza, and of course, pasta!
The food was consistently excellent, and very reasonably priced. A dinner for three including wine usually ran between 60-75 Euros. Since tipping in Italy is significantly less than in the U.S., we found the cost of food very affordable.
Here is a menu from a restaurant in Venice, a city known to have a high cost of living:
Here are pictures from most of the dinners we enjoyed while in Italy:
Pasta of the day, which was similar to the Pasta Gricia with added fig. Enjoyed at Osteria La Sol Fa in Rome.Clockwise from lower left: pasta of the day, Pasta Gricia, and Pasta Carbonara. In the center was Polpettone (a kind of meat loaf), as well as dry white and red wine. Enjoyed at Osteria La So Fa in Rome.Prosciutto e melone at Ristorante la Cisterna in Rome.Steamed and fried Jewish style artichokes at Ristorante la Cisterna in RomeA huge plate of fettuccine with shallots, zucchini flowers, and cream at Ristorante la Cisterna in RomeHand-made ravioli filled with spinach and ricotta in a tomato sauce with Parmesan cheese at Ristorante la Cisterna in Rome.Carpaccio with arugula and alfalfa sprouts with Greek yogurt feta sauce Ristorante Finisterrae in FlorencePasta with tuna and tropea onions at Ristorante Finisterrae in FlorenceChicken tagine with plum, pecan, turmeric, and cous cous at Ristorante Finisterrae in FlorencePizza with tomato, mozzarella, burrata, spicy n’juda sausage and basil at Ristorante Finisterrae in FlorencePici pasta with oxtail ragu at Ristorante Finisterrae in FlorenceCheese plate with honey, apricot, currants, and nuts at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceVegetable souffle with walnuts, cream sauce, and edible flowers – so smooth and flavorful at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceHomemade ravioli filled with pear and pecorino – the best ravioli I have ever eaten! Enjoyed at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceRoasted potatoes at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceChianina Filet Mignon – locally sourced beef – exquisitely tender and flavorful at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceRisotto with sausage and saffron at Braceria All’11 in FlorenceMonster steaks hang in the doorway of Braceria All’11First round of cocktails with a gorgeous view of Florence at the Divina Terrazza Rooftop BarSecond cocktails: Pims at Divina Terrazza Rooftop Bar in FlorenceFettuccini Al Tartufo – pasta with porcini mushrooms and truffle sauce at Buca Poldo in FlorenceLa Verdure Alla Griglia – Selection of grilled seasonal vegetables at Buca Poldo in FlorenceRavioli Buca Poldo – Ravioli filled with spinach and ricotta with red radicchio and asparagus in a cream sauce at Buca Poldo in FlorenceSeafood crostini: smoked tuna and tzatziki, butter and anchovies, prawns and avacado cream, creamed cod at Cucineria La Mattonaia in FlorenceGuitar spaghetti with cheese and pepper, black cabbage cream and crispy bacon at Cucineria La MattonaiaSeasonal vegetable flan on a Sienese pecorino cheese fondue and toasted almonds at Cucineria La Mattonaia in FlorenceFried artichoke hearts at Cucineria La MattonaiaRavioli stuffed with prawns and lemon confit, Mediterranean lobster bisque, with zucchini and pistacchio cream at Cucineria La MattonaiaFilet of pork, honey reduction and truffled potato cream at Cucineria La MattonaiaCantucci and Vin Santo – biscotti dipped in sweet wine for dessert at Cucineria La Mottonaia
4. Gelato
As expected, gelato was found everywhere and we consumed a lot of it!
The health-conscious will be relieved to know that gelato contains 6 – 9% butterfat, up to half the amount found in ice cream. It is denser, with less air and typically has more flavoring than ice cream. I tasted the best salted caramel in my life, and the mango gelato I had will haunt me until I can find another that matches its flavor and texture.
We were quite amazed by the price of food in grocery stores — even in notoriously expensive Venice. The meat and cheese quality was very high and selections vast, but prices appeared to be half of what we would pay for lesser quality goods in the U.S.
Vast selection of high-quality prosciutto, salami, and other meats. Typical prices ranged from 1.60 – 3.50 Euros per package, more for larger packages – and this was in Venice!Beautiful selection of fresh pastas ranging from 3 – 5.23 Euros in Venice.
We saw quality dry pasta brands found at home on sale for less than 1 Euro.
Eggs came in smaller quantities (2-4 per package) and were about half the price we pay in the U.S.
As is common outside of the U.S., eggs were unrefrigerated. Eggs in the U.S. are required by the USDA to be washed and sanitized, which removes the eggs’ natural outer coating (cuticle) and exposes the shell’s pores. Eggs abroad are not required to be washed, travel far less distance to market, and usually don’t require as lengthy a shelf life.
6. Snack boxes on the train
We took advantage of Italy’s excellent rail service to travel quickly around the country. We always got seat reservations as was recommended, and since 1st Class seat reservations were usually the same price as 2nd class, we bought them whenever they were available (some trains were sold out).
In first class we were given a snack box like this:
The contents varied depending on the time of day, but they always contained a packet of Buoni Perche Ad Alto Contenuto Di Fibre crackers. We found these crackers particularly flavorless, and they left us with cottonmouth.
But according to the package and the website, these crackers are made with organic wheat and oats, are loaded with fiber and protein, greatly benefit digestion, and purport to lower cholesterol.
Given how rich and heavy our diet was with all the cheese and gelato, I was generally surprised not to have suffered indigestion and constipation. Perhaps these dry and flavorless morsels can take some credit.
By the way, I highly recommend U.S. citizens traveling to Italy to use the flexible Eurail Pass for getting around. The mobile phone app is not without issues, and I plan to post a blog article about it soon.
Conclusion
I consistently heard how good the food is in Italy, and I wasn’t disappointed. There wasn’t a single mediocre meal we had while in Italy, and I am sorely missing the quality of food I became accustomed to during my week there.
I expected to gain weight given the quantity and richness of the food I consumed. On the other hand, I was walking constantly, a welcome change from my more sedentary existence at home. As a result, my weight remained unchanged.
What I did not expect was how affordable all the food was. Whether eating out or buying groceries, it seemed like I was paying 1/3 to 1/2 the amount I would pay at home, and for higher quality foods. The favorable exchange rate helps, but given the extremely high cost of fuel (e.g., 1.95 Euros per liter for gasoline), it’s hard to fathom how such good food can be so affordable.
It really makes me question even deeper the system of food production and delivery in the U.S. which favors factory farms, manufactured foods, and long shelf life over locally sourced, organic, and seasonal fare.
If the Italians can make high-quality food affordable and available, even in the middle of big cities, then surely we can too.
Summary: An earworm compels me to arrange and publish a new musical work.
I. Earworms – Constant Aural Companions I experience frequent, sometimes constant earworms. There is almost always some song or melody occupying my mind. I don’t say I “suffer” earworms — often they are benign, sometimes pleasurable, and only on occasion are they truly annoying.
For me, they can last for hours, days, and even weeks. Although sometimes prompted by hearing an audio snippet or mention of some related context (a story, a movie, an advertisement, etc.), some can pop into my head seemingly at random.
Here’s a list of just some of the earworms that bounced around inside my head the last couple weeks:
When I want to rid myself of an earworm, either because it has been going on too long or is regrettably something I truly don’t like, there are a number of strategies I use to try to push it out of my mind.
One way is to concentrate on some song I really like.
I was first introduced to this song by the 1935 movie, “Top Hat,” arguably the best of all the Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers films. I remember calling on this song many times during the early 1990s after a certain earwormy hit from Billy Ray Cyrus hit the airways. (I will not name the title so as to minimize awakening an annoying earworm for myself or for you.)
Other earworm remedies I’ve tried, with varying success, include finding and playing a recording of the song or performing it myself on piano or viola.
When a really good earworm gets stuck in my head, I occasionally imagine it played on different instruments than the original. Commonly, I hear the piece with my mind’s ear performed by a string quartet or string quintet. I am then often driven to the point of compulsion to write a musical arrangement.
Such was the case this month, but not for string instruments.
II. Transforming My Earworm Into A New Arrangement A couple weeks ago, a pleasurable earworm invaded my head.
Don Loftus, 1929 – 1996
My father, a pianist, passed away over 25 years ago. I still hear in my mind so many of the pieces he played, as well as those we played together. Tchaikovsky, Rachmaninoff, Chopin, Liszt, and Debussy were composers I heard him play often. The lovely piece repeating in my mind was one of the piano pieces I remember hearing him play so many times.
I was happy to hear it and welcomed the memories it brought with it. After several days, I started to try to figure out what the piece was. I guessed Tchaikovsky or Rachmaninoff but couldn’t find a match. My brother suggested Chopin when I sang the melody to him, but still, the work’s identity eluded me.
Portrait of Chopin painted by Eugène Delacroix
Finally, I sent a recording of myself singing the theme to a pianist friend who immediately recognized it as the Chopin Etude Op. 10 No. 3 in E major, nicknamed “Tristesse” (French for “sadness” or “melancholy”). I just love how it starts out with a sweet, simple melody, but then builds with increasing drama and passion to a stormy and tumultuous peak before returning to its simple, melancholy melody.
As I replayed the piece both in my head and on my computer, I began to imagine it as an alto flute duet. Could two flutes create and reproduce the dark, stormy mood of the piece?
As I wrote recently, I now own an alto flute and I love its sound. I was compelled to give it a try.
With the aid of sheet music for a string orchestra arrangement of the piece, I cranked out my first draft in a blazing fast (for me) 4 hours. I transposed the key both to make it both easier to play (that middle section is awash with accidentals) and to utilize the rich, velvety notes found in the bottom range of the alto flute.
III. Refining and Releasing the New Work A dear flutist friend who is a long-time musician with me in the Newport Symphony gamely agreed to read through the first draft the afternoon of the day I completed it (he had actually only acquired his own alto flute a month earlier!).
We played though my arrangement, which left me gasping and dizzy.
My work has long passages that offer few opportunities to breathe, and the alto flute requires significantly more air than a standard C flute. Moreover, my stamina and lung capacity are severely lacking — it’s been over a decade since I’ve played any flute more than a few minutes.
Nevertheless, I must say I was pleased how well the initial draft turned out. In my experience, first drafts usually require a lot of fixes and adjustments. I returned home eager to incorporate the few suggestions for improvements my friend offered me.
After making the recommended changes, I completed the tedious task of adding detailed tempo and dynamics markings. I also generated a duet version for standard C flute and alto flute. A coworker and I read through that version just days later.
Wanting to verify if it was really finished to my satisfaction, I returned to my friend’s house today and we recorded it.
I’m quite happy with it — though listening to myself always requires me to grant myself great patience and grace instead of focusing on the imperfections in my playing.
Here’s a video of us playing the final version of my arrangement:
I’m pleased with the result and still a bit amazed how quickly it was completed.
Chopin’s Etude is still echoing around inside my cranium, which I happily accept. But I have to wonder if I will be compelled to create new arrangements for other instruments.
For nearly 6 months I worked with script and storytelling coaches to develop my story, and I was very pleased with the final result.
From Left to Right: Storytellers Toby, Ghassan, Meghna, Chanpone, and The Immigrant Story Founder, Sankar.
Looking back, it is hard to believe I was terribly sick right up to a day before the performance. My throat had been so sore I could barely swallow water, much less food, and lost over 5 pounds. With some good pharmaceuticals, excellent healing food, tender nursing care, and a big boost of adrenaline, one can hardly tell from the video that I had been so ill!
Here is a recording of my story, “Discovering My Story”
My fellow storytellers were so good, I was humbled to be included beside them, and I struggled to feel worthy. We developed a close bond during our journey together. I encourage you to watch their stories too!
“One Voice Brings a Big Change” – Meghna Damani
“I’m Not Supposed To Be Here” – Chanpone Sinlapasai
“Caught Between War and Paperwork” – Ghassan Bin Hammam
A podcast expanding on Ghassan’s extraordinary story can be heard by clicking here.
We made our way looping out of Kappeln east, south, then west back to the port of Eckernförde where our voyage began. I took the wheel for much of the trip, during the mild, gray day.
Taking the wheel one last time
Leaving the mouth of the Schlei (English: Sly Firth inlet) out of Kappeln, Germany
We carefully lowered the sails one last time and neatly secured them with practiced hands.
Folding the sails for the final time
Speaking of hands, I examined the neoprene gloves I had worn on the colder days and noted the damage they suffered protecting my digits from a similar fate.
After unloading all our baggage and leftover food, we had the challenge of fitting it all into the cars we had taken to Eckernförde.
Okay, now can the people fit in there?
Record of all our ports
Then we had to exchange our farewells.
Postlude:
Many people called it “the trip of a lifetime,” but I didn’t want to. I didn’t want to think I wouldn’t get to take a voyage like this again. And indeed, within weeks after the completion of this trip, everyone who had taken it wanted to do it again — and so we will! In August 2024, the Abel Tasman will set sail from Rostock, the same former East German city where I attended university in 1989!
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The weather in Sønderborg was sunny and mild, and we enjoyed walking around the city. We were moored next to the drawbridge. It would open and we watched a steady stream of yachts, ships, and powerboats arriving and departing.
With the nice weather and lovely harbor town to visit, I expected a smaller audience, but when things started, I was happy to see every passenger and crew member sitting and ready to hear what I had to say.
I began by saying I think it’s human nature to ignore or gloss over stories and experiences that reflect poorly on ourselves, our families, and our country, but we must shine a light on these darker sides if we hope to improve and to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past. I asked for a show of hands who had heard anything about this history, and out of about 17, just 3 hands were raised. Frank (of course), Moritz, who was a Rotary exchange high school exchange student in Texas, and the captain, who remembered a brief mention from a book on U.S. history.
I had to do some serious simplification to keep the presentation under 45 minutes. I again used Deepl.com to help me translate the text, then tweaked it to make it more personal and natural. Although I welcomed interruptions, no one posed a question during the talk, although there were occasional exclamations during some moments.
At the end I received another round of spirited applause, and then the questions. Between the fatigue of thinking in German and expressing more complex thoughts than I’m accustomed to speaking in a foreign language, I was a bit tired. The questions were thoughtful and challenging. A few that I remember:
What happened to your uncles who served? What was their experience after coming home?
What do you feel about the immigration policy along the US-Mexico border?
How could your grandparents and mom forgive the US for their mistreatment?
How and when did the discrimination against Japanese Americans subside?
Did you (Toby) experience discrimination or persecution?
I finally gave up and had to answer some of the questions in English. They all understand and speak English, but I tried to stick with German, dropping an English word here or there when I couldn’t find or was too tired to find a way to describe what I meant only in German.
It’s funny. At moments when I would search for a German word, I gave up and tried to find it in English. But my brain would feel like it was grinding gears switching between German and English. Finding words and synonyms in English usually comes very quickly to me, but during the trip I found it almost impossible to find words in English without a long meditation.
Day 7: Returning to Germany
We set out around 10, with sun, cool wind, and seemingly favorable conditions. Sails were hoisted quickly with familiarity and skill honed through a week of practice. Tons of sailboats accompanied us out of harbor. Rotating 360 degrees and peering to the horizon I could probably count at least 50 vessels, mostly nice sailing yachts, with an occasional sailing ship.
Given the gentle rocking and rolling and relaxed pace, my insufficient previous night’s sleep caught up with me, and I decided to lie down on one of the padded benches in the galley and got a good hour of sleep. When I woke up in time for the lunchtime meal, I was teased that my snoring had been recorded and posted to Instagram. I protested that people might mistake which sounds were the creaking ropes, groaning masts, and me.
I went up to the wheel and saw the captain steering alone, which is rare. Usually there are at least a couple people watching, chatting with him, and angling to take the wheel (like me). I decided to try singing him a funny song in German I’d seen on Facebook about a man with a dog attending a burial of two coffins. That description doesn’t sound auspicious, but the captain laughed as the song progressed and predicted the final line of the rhyming song.
Letztens auf ‘nem Friedhof ist was seltsames gescheh’n, Beerdigung mit zwei Särgen hab’ich so noch nie geseh’n Ein Mann mit einem Hund führt die Trauergäste an dahinter marschierten vierhundert Mann.
Neugierisch bin ich zu dem Mann dann hin, und hab’ ihn gefragt “Wer liegt in der ersten Holzbox drin?” Da seet er: “Meine Frau…” ich sag’ “Oh je, was war der Grund?” Da meint’er “ein Biss von diesem Hund!”
Ich sag’: “Dat tut ma’leid, und in der and’ren Kist?” Da seet’er: “Ihre Mutter, och’ wegen’nem Biss!” So stand et’ geschrieben, im Autopsie-Befund: “Täter war auch hier wieder der Hund!”
Ich hab dem Mann den Arm dann auf de’ Schulter gelegt, ‘ne Frage formuliert, die mich spontan bewegt: “Ist es möglich, dat man sich den Hund mal leihen kann?” Da seet’er: “Klar Jung’, dann stell’ dich hinten an!”
Recently at a Cemetery By Martin Schopps
Recently at a ceremony something strange happened I’ve never seen a funeral with two coffins before A man with dog led the mourners Behind them marched 400 men
Curious, I went up to the man And asked him, “who lies in the first wooden box?” He answered, “my wife.” I said, “Oh gosh, what was the cause?” Then he said, “a bite from this dog.”
I said, “I’m very sorry. And in the other casket?” He said, “her mother — also because from a bite.” In the autopsy was written “The perpetrator, again, was the dog”
Then I put my hand on his shoulder A question formulated spontaneously and I was moved to ask: “Is it possible for one to borrow your dog?” He answered, “sure, kid, go to the back of the line!”
We arrived at Kappeln, our first German port in a week after sailing 47km/29 miles southeast.
There was some festival going on, and as we made our way through the narrow channel marked by red and green buoys, a score or more of sailboats trailed, led, and passed us by. A kitschy sternwheeler, complete with a paddlewheel (turning just for show, not for locomotion) full of partying Germans joined the steady flow of watercraft making their way through the channel. We ended up maneuvering against the pier directly in front of the sternwheeler.
Feline prepares to toss the sternline
The waterfront was covered with booths selling soft ice cream, crepes, and sausages, as well as attempting to lure people in to throw darts at balloons, throw balls into baskets, and so on. A sound stage upstream projected a constant stream of rock music. Closing the doors and windows, one still heard and sometimes felt the constant thrum and incessant beat. We hoped it wouldn’t continue past our late bedtimes.
Windmill at dusk in Kappeln, Germany
Realizing this was our last dinner on the ship, I didn’t notice anyone else making any kind of speech or toast, so I stood up and shakily expressed how I knew I’d love sailing but had no idea how much more I would love it.
Sharing drinks on our last night of the voyage
I knew only Frank but knew his friends would be great. But I had no idea just how wonderful they would be and how much I would enjoy talking with them and getting to know them. I have made a bunch more lifelong friends, and cannot wait to see them again in Germany, the U.S., or anywhere.
Standing on solid ground at Marstal, Denmark was a welcome after the exciting winds and waves that brought us there.
Entering the Seafaring Museum in Marstal, Denmark
We toured a seafaring museum which contained much more than we had time to view.
One room was full of ships in a bottle. I wondered aloud whether the sailors had trouble consuming sufficient amounts of rum to keep the makers supplied with enough empty bottles:
Model of a Dutch flat-bottomed sailing ship“Do you see what I see?”
After the previous exciting day of seafaring, we made languorous progress under mild winds to the tiny island of Avernakø, about 31km/19 miles northwest of Marstal. Having no harbor with space big enough for our schooner, the captain dropped anchor offshore.
Piloting a Zodiac, the captain ferried a portion of us passengers to shore, where we walked past sleepy farms, grazing cattle, and beautiful rolling hills of yellow rapeseed used to make canola cooking oil and biodiesel.
The rocky beach of AvernakøPassing fields of rapeseed with Robert and SebastianAbel Tasman moored offshore from Avernakø, Denmark
After returning to ship, we all got dressed up for the “Captain’s Dinner.” Frank and I agreed before the trip to bring our shiny purple jackets — the same ones we had worn 38 years to a Sadie Hawkins dance. These jackets came from a dance band my father led back in the 50s and 60s.
Day 7: Becalmed Again
On this day we expected mild winds again but hoped to make a longer trip to Sonderborg. In the morning the wind was indeed light, barely enough to nudge us forward at a mere 0.6 knots.
People took the opportunity to jump into the frigid waters – briefly – and some took advantage of the stand-up paddle board. They could not convince me to get in the water. Several of these Germans regularly go swimming first thing every morning and are used to cold water. Watching their faces grow red and how quickly they exited the water assured me there was no way I was going in without a neoprene suit.
Klara takes the plunge in the frigid Baltic
I decided instead to climb the first mast. This time, I sat on the crossbeam for a long time, taking in the sights, as well as shooting a bunch of true bird’s-eye-view photos.
View from atop the foremast
We spied porpoises in the distance. They were too distant and too fast to catch in photos, but we enjoyed watching them through a pair of binoculars we passed around.
The German word for porpoise is Schweinswale, literally “pig whale,” which seems rather unkind to these sleek and intelligent creatures. On the other hand, pigs are very intelligent creatures too, so who am I to judge?
The expected afternoon wind never came, so we powered up the diesel engine and motored for a couple of hours into Sønderborg, completing a distance of 38km/23 miles.